How should I discuss sex with my partner?


Building a good relationship and having a fulfilling sexual life both benefit from you and your spouse talking to each other about your likes and dislikes and your boundaries.

How can I express my sexual preferences to my partner?

Sometimes you anticipate a new partner to be sexually astute, and when things don’t seem all that great, you end up feeling let down. Fortunately, communication is a fairly easy technique to make mediocre sex into a wonderful one.No matter how experienced your partner is, they could not understand what excites you because everyone is different. It’s important to communicate to your partner your preferences and feelings. Even after you’ve been dating for a long, it’s a good idea to stay in touch because your interests and what makes you feel good may not last.

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You want to be touched where? To what extent does pressure feel comfortable? How quickly or slowly? You can guide their hand, mouth, or other body part, or you can masturbate in front of them to show your spouse what you want. Alternatively, you might tell them what is comfortable (or not).

Although discussing sex can be uncomfortable or frightening at first, it can also be quite enticing. Furthermore, your partner might be really grateful that you brought it up. You can always start by asking them what makes them feel good or what kinds of sexual activities they enjoy if you’re scared. After that, you can discuss anything makes you feel good. Additionally, it’s an excellent chance to express to them your boundaries and the kinds of sex you refuse to have.

How can I bring up safer sex with my partner?

In addition to demonstrating your concern for one another, protecting one another from unwanted pregnancy and/or STDs can strengthen your bond. You’ll feel better once you start talking about it, but it’s quite normal to feel embarrassed to bring it up. It is likely that your partner will appreciate you bringing it up. Talking about safer sexual practices is best done before engaging in sexual activity.

Telling your partner that you value their connection and will do everything in your power to keep them safe is a smart place to start. Additionally, you may start by discussing your own safer sex history, which could encourage your partner to speak up. In order for you to support one another, it’s also a fantastic idea to recommend that you take the test together.

Before having sex, you should ask someone the following insightful questions:

  • Which method of birth control is most appropriate for us?When was the last time an STD test was performed on you?
  • For what STDs were you tested?
  • Do you typically use dental dams or condoms?
  • Have you ever shared needles for drugs, tattoos, or body piercings with someone? (This is how some STDs, like HIV, can be acquired and then transferred during sexual activity.)
  • Have you already had any STDs? Which ones? Did you receive any treatment for them?

It could be a clue that something is wrong in your relationship if your partner refuses to be tested or wear protection. Someone may not be the ideal partner for a relationship or for having sex if they refuse to engage in safer sexual behavior when you ask them to. This indicates that they don’t value your health. You have the right to happiness, health, and safety.

How can I refuse sex?

It is your freedom to refuse any form of sexual activity. Don’t rely on nonverbal cues to tell someone you’re not interested. Say no to anything if you don’t want to do it. No means no, regardless of whether you’ve had sex with them previously or the reason behind your refusal.

Additionally, you are free to alter your mind while having sex. Perhaps after engaging in sexual activity, you concluded it wasn’t right for you or that you weren’t comfortable with it. Your spouse shouldn’t make you feel horrible or guilty about stopping at any point. In the event that they do, your partnership is most likely unhealthy.

Saying “yes” and meaning it when it comes to sexual consent. There can be no permission without that “yes.” It is rape if your partner coerces you into having sex. Sexual assault occurs when you are coerced into engaging in another sexual activity. Furthermore, it is never your fault to be raped or sexually attacked.